Mind your thoughts and let go of your worries to attract positive things
What are worries, anyway? Worries are negative thoughts about the future. So you think about possible dangers and imagine what could go wrong. Here, we talk about how to let go of your worries, so you can invite wonderful things into your life.
Even if it sounds strange at first, worrying can be a very positive thing!
You take out foreign health insurance before you go on vacation.
Go to the doctor for checkups.
Conscientiously prepare for an exam or presentation, and
You take care of your retirement provision.
Not to worry at all and always start from the “as is” point has nothing to do with a positive attitude. It is simply naive.
A problem arises when you lose yourself in worry or concern about things that you cannot control. Because then your worries are senseless and only cause you to lose yourself in negative thoughts, self-doubts and fears.
No matter how worried you are, you cannot control whether you lose your job, get sick at some point, whether your partner cheats on you with your best friend or if your personal frontrunner becomes the next president …
These (and many other) things are beyond your control.
Worrying doesn’t solve problems
Unfortunately, people are often convinced that things will get better if they worry enough and think about something long enough. (Tip: they won’t.)
If you can change something in a situation, do it. If not, stop thinking about it all the time.
So be aware that worrying doesn’t change anything. It just makes you more anxious, overworked and stressed.
The problem with worries is that they are very adherent. Like chewing gum that sticks to the sole of your shoe.
You only briefly consider how much you have saved recently and before you realize it, you imagine how you live destitute on the street and beg for change in front of the supermarket …
Or you can lie in bed in the evening and think fleetingly about the meeting tomorrow in the office. And 2 hours later you are still pondering and realizing that it is now really time to sleep (which of course makes you less likely to fall asleep).
One important question remains to be answered: How do you stop worrying all the time?
That is what it should be about now. Below are a few methods that are highly effective for worrying.
You could die from an incurable disease.
Or, spend the rest of your life lonely and alone.
Something happens to your children.
You could lose your job and end up penniless on the street.
The holiday plane to Rhodos could crash anywhere over the Mediterranean.
No matter what concerns prevent you from falling asleep at night or are chasing you during the day: They will most likely not occur.
I have my worries too (had them much more in the past than today). But little of what I’ve been worried about for years has actually happened.
And even if it did, it was nowhere near as bad as I imagined it to be.
Most of the time, worries only exist in our head. They are negative thoughts on steroids.
So the next time you’re worried, ask yourself the following:
What is the probability that this will really happen?
By doing so, you become aware that your worries have no real reason for being in 99% of the cases. And even if your concerns are justified, there’s probably nothing you can do about it.
Earth could be hit by a meteorite that wipes out all life next Tuesday. The coronavirus could mutate into a much more aggressive form and extinguish three fourth of the earth’s population … But what are you going to do about it?
If you have no control over a situation, there is no point in worrying about it. It doesn’t make it any better. Instead of worrying unnecessarily, you should let go.
Keep a solution
Most of your worries repeat themselves over and over again. Yes, worries are not only annoying, they are also extremely boring.
What helps enormously against typical worries is having an answer to them. Let me explain that.
For example, suppose you are often worried about losing your job.
This worry comes up again and again and even affects your work performance because you are always afraid of making a mistake.
Then think carefully about what you would do if you really lost your job.
So prepare a kind of action plan.
The next time you’re worried about losing your job, break your thought patterns:
“Yes, if I lose my job, it would be stupid. But I don’t have to worry about that. Because I know exactly what I would do then. I have an action plan. ”
This technique is extremely helpful. Because you have sort of an antidote to your worries.
You can find a “kind” solution even for big worries.
For example, if you’re worried about losing a loved one, you might still be saying:
“The loss would, of course, be terrible. But I know that I could somehow deal with the situation.
There are also other people in my life who are important to me. They would give me a hold ”.
Make an action plan for your most common concerns. It will help you.
The worry stopper
Unfortunately, we cannot control our thoughts one hundred percent. However, we can influence and guide them in a certain direction.
The next time you find yourself starting to worry, tell yourself:
“Stop! I know exactly how the whole thing will end… We won’t even start with that today! ”
After that, it is important that you focus on something else. Because our mind cannot “do nothing” unless in a meditative state. In a fully active period, however, it can only do “something else”.
Instead of expecting you to stop worrying suddenly, give your mind a new duty.
For example, you can do a specific job:
2- Clean up the kitchen or cook something
3- Answer your emails
4- Watch a movie
But you can also focus purely on something new:
1- Think about your last vacation
2- List 3 things you are thankful for
3- Think about what goal you want to achieve this year and what you need to do for it
4- Think of 3 people who are important to you and what wonderful moments you have had with them.
5- If all of this doesn’t help, write down your worries (either on a piece of paper or on your computer).
It’s surprising how much clearer and more relaxed you are once you’ve written your concerns down.
Tell someone about your worries
This does not mean that at 3 a.m. you open your heart to a stranger at the bar while drunk.
It’s much more about telling a good friend or family member about your concerns.
This has two advantages:
For one thing, it feels just incredibly liberating to talk about what is bothering you. You will probably feel much better just because you are talking about your troubles. Sometimes we just need someone to listen to us attentively.
On the other hand, a familiar person can give you feedback. He/she has a more neutral view of the whole situation and can help you to look at your worries more realistically and to get a new perspective.
Because as you already learned at the very beginning of this article: Most concerns are completely exaggerated and inflated fancies. And, guess what? Sometimes we just need someone to point this out to us.
Some love it, some hate it: sport.
Regardless of your attitude, sport is one of the most effective remedies for worry, stress, and anxiety.
So, exercise can improve the symptoms of many mental illnesses. And people who work-out regularly can deal better with stress.
When you exhaust yourself during sport, you free your head from painful thoughts. It doesn’t really matter which sport you do.
The main thing is that you are on the move, enjoy yourself while doing so, and, thus, come up with other thoughts.
Why sport has been proven to do good and even make you happy is simply because it releases the happy hormone serotonin. Just after ten minutes of walking, you will feel uplifted and in good spirits.
Other psychologists and scientists suspect that it is, furthermore, due to the deliverance of hormones like and messenger substances, such as dopamine, adrenaline and noradrenaline, as well.
Transform your worries
As we saw earlier, worries are negative thoughts about the future. So, you imagine that in the future something will not go as you would like it to.
1- You lose your job.
2- Your partner is leaving you.
3- You don’t have enough money.
The problem begins when you get lost in your worries and negative thoughts. Because then you believe that your worries are facts. I will lose my job. My partner will leave me. I will not have enough money for retirement.
However, your concerns are not facts. They are just one of many available options out there.
The next time you are worried about something, think carefully about another alternative.
Let’s say you’ve been single for a long time and are worried that you’ll be alone forever. Then imagine how you can find a great partner with whom you will enjoy the rest of your life.
Don’t forget: We’re talking about the future here. Nobody knows what will happen.
Just because a lot of things in your life have gone wrong so far, and you have not achieved your goals, does not mean that it will always be that way.
Instead of just imagining the worst, imagine a positive result at all times. This is how the retraining process of your subconscious mind begins and new thought patterns form over time.
Pack your worries at the root
Beliefs have a huge impact on our lives. The problem is that we are often unaware of them. Our beliefs control us like a kind of invisible force. Most of them are deeply embedded in our subconscious minds.
So many worries arise from old beliefs, such as: “I am not good enough, I will never make it, or I cannot change anything anyway.”
By making yourself aware of old beliefs, you can also resolve lots of your worries.
How are you doing with retraining your mind? Have you already discovered and practiced the power to let go of your worries and focus on positive thought?
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