Adopt new mindsets to change your life significantly and to reach your goals
In the following, I would like to introduce you to new mindsets to change your life significantly. Different thought patterns, with a possible impact so great that you don’t even know how all the good things suddenly simply seem to happen to you.
With these changes, you will experience the following:
You become more confident
Have more motivation
Capability to easier let go of the past
You can deal better with setbacks.
You can learn (almost) everything
When it comes to dealing with challenges, learning new things and pursuing goals, there are two different mindsets. The rigid mindset and the growth mindset.
A rigid mindset is based on the assumption that your success depends solely on your talent. So you think you can’t learn new skills and either have it in you, or not.
Do you see mistakes as a threat to yourself (“If I fail, I’m a bad person”)?
Avoid challenges and new experiences.
You often doubt yourself because there are many things you “cannot do”.
Do you think others are just better than you and just do it better?
The rigid mindset takes a lot of courage, self-confidence and the hope that you can change something in your life.
This makes you feel inferior and hopeless. Many negative thoughts, self-doubts and fear of failure have their origin in the rigid mindset.
If you are sitting at home feeling completely depressed, convincing yourself that everyone else has a better life than you and are considering whether you should drink a bottle of cheap red wine now or prefer to grab a stronger liquor, you are probably in a rigid mindset.
The growth mindset, on the other hand, is based on the assumption that you can learn new things and develop yourself. So you believe that with the right knowledge, practice and endurance you can learn (almost) everything.
Do you see mistakes and failures as feedback?
Do you dare to tackle challenges and try new things?
Be more confident and trust yourself more
Compare yourself less with others
The growth mindset gives you the courage and confidence to try new things, master challenges and deal with setbacks. It allows you to overcome self-doubt and deal better with fear of failure.
Talent is overrated
Our success in life depends primarily on our willingness to practice, learn and develop. In other words, the importance of talent is as overrated as the number of your Instagram followers.
The vast majority of people who have achieved something that they want, inside or outside, have simply done more for it.
They have invested more time and more energy than you, have reached their limits more often and have failed more often. And that is exactly why they learned and grew.
There is an old Asian wisdom that sums it up:
“The master failed more often than the student tried.”
It is quite possible that you have a rigid mindset in certain areas of life and more a growth mindset in others. This is because almost everyone has both mindsets.
When it comes to your self-confidence, you may think very rigidly (“either you are self-confident or you are not”). But when it comes to your professional success, you may be thinking growth-oriented (“if I work a lot and make an effort, I can progress professionally.”).
So it’s not a question of developing a growth mindset – because you already have it. It’s much more about applying it to all areas of life.
These things will help you:
Instead of saying “I can’t do it”, say “I can’t do it yet”. For example, instead of saying “I don’t have the skills to start my own business” say “I don’t yet have the skills to start my own business”.
If you make a mistake or experience failure, see it as feedback. Ask yourself: “What can I learn from this? What can I do better next time?”
The next time you doubt or think you can’t or can’t do something, be aware that you can learn (almost) everything. It’s less about talent than practice.
Incidentally, the American scientist Carol Dweck is considered the “inventor” of the growth mindset. For decades she has been researching why some people can deal with challenges and problems better than others.
The knowledge of countless experiments and studies with very different groups of people part of the growth mindset.
Your past does not determine your future
There is this story in which two older men sit by a lake and pensively look into the distance.
Then one asks the other: “If you could live your life again, would you do everything the same way again?”
The other answers: “Not quite. I would have appreciated this view right from the start. ”
Let me guess: you are no different. If you could live your life again, you would change some things as well.
You might choose another profession. Marry someone else. Live in a different place. Have more sex. Be braver. Go your own way.
Then let me tell you something. – Your past does not determine your future.
You can change things
We no longer live in the 16th century, when you were either born a noble and had a good life ahead of you, or as a farmer and had to toil for a roof over your head and a few potatoes for the rest of your life.
Just because you have not been able to do something, have not achieved something or are dissatisfied does not mean that it will continue to be so in the future.
Yes, your current life is largely the result of your previous decisions, actions and experiences.
You can’t change that anymore. But think about your future.
Your future depends solely on what you are doing now. When you make better decisions, act differently and have new experiences, things will change.
Maybe not overnight, but they will change.
Don’t let your past determine your future.
Your past shapes you, but it doesn’t define you. You can change, develop good habits and let go of old patterns. It is not your past that decides what your life will be like tomorrow- but your actions. Ultimately, you can decide every day who you want to be, and what you want to do with your life.
I’m not saying it’s always easy to leave the past behind.
Separations, the loss of a loved one, illnesses or negative experiences can strongly influence our self-image. But you can learn to deal with it, make the best of it and look ahead.
Just because something has always been this way does not mean that it will always be that way. Maybe sometimes your life feels like you can’t change anything. But that’s not true.
You have the power to change things. You can grow internally, let go of old things, become stronger and develop. Every day you can make new decisions and take a step in the right direction.
There are no failures
Have you ever noticed how toddlers learn to walk? They get up for the first time and usually fall back immediately. Then they learn to stand. At some point, they take their first steps and fall again. But they keep getting up and learning new things. With every attempt, they get a little better – until they can walk safely and steadily.
But imagine a toddler would take his first steps, fall down and then think:
“Well, it didn’t work. It seems like I’m not meant to be a runner … I should just rather let it go and crawl on, I can do better that way … ”
Of course, no toddler thinks that way. However, adults do it often.
Many people are intimidated by failure. They try something new and see that it doesn’t work the first time. They then believe that they will probably never learn it, and that it just makes no sense …
But that’s just nonsense.
Most people who are more successful than you, or can do better, have more lived through more failures than you. So, most successful people are not on top because they never failed, but because they failed more often.
Whenever you try something new, learn and develop, you will experience failures.
That is why it is a huge problem if you are afraid of failure. Because that will keep you from trying new things, leaving your comfort zone and developing yourself as a person.
Allow yourself to make mistakes
Allowing yourself to make mistakes, to fail and to ridicule (laugh about) yourself is one of the most important prerequisites for moving forward in life.
And that’s the whole point!
We rarely succeed at the first time. Most entrepreneurs are not successful with their first company. But with the second, third or fifth.
Ultimately, failure is nothing more than feedback. Certain feedback that your current path, your strategy, your approach did not work. No more and no less.
It becomes problematic when you conclude from failure about your value as a person.
So to say failure makes you believe that just because something didn’t work out, you can’t do it, you are worthless or simply the greatest failure the world has ever seen.
That is also the difference between optimists and pessimists. Optimists attribute failure to something that can be changed.
This means they can hope for success next time. Pessimists tend to attribute failure to themselves or a trait that they cannot change. They are, therefore, more prone to depression.
Understand that a mistake, failure, or rejection says nothing about your worth as a person. It is simply feedback that what you are doing is not (yet) working. It is also showing you that t is time to develop new mindsets to change your life significantly.
Life passes quickly. One day you will be on your deathbed and you will regret all the things you have not done. Your dreams, your goals, everything that is really important to you. The longer you wait, the more difficult it is to start. So start now.
Which mindset do you think is most important? Let me know in the comments! I look forward to hearing from you.