Nine tips to help you stop caring about what others think of you
Unfortunately, the fact that we put so much emphasis on the opinion of others also means that we are less in our own midst. It is vital to stop caring about what others think of you, as we automatically take what we think combined with what others think and judge ourselves.
You don’t really know what’s going on in other people’s heads. Even so, the imagined opinion of others becomes our truth. Mainly because we attach too much importance to it instead of reflecting on ourselves.
As social beings, the desire to be liked by others is almost innate. But it just seems like that. The truth is, it’s a habit. And like all habits, you can change this one, too.
1- Know your ideals and values
To get around this, you need to have a clear idea of what is important to you. What are your values?
For example, if your parents valued safety, you don’t have to be too.
Set your own standards, then you will come into your potential. Fashion trends are a good example of this.
Your clothes have an impact on how you appear to others and what they think of you.
What do you do, however, when the current trend doesn’t suit your body at all?
Is it important to you whether your jeans have the trendiest cut right now? Or do you just want it to fit well, be comfortable and flatter your figure? Do you pay attention to your body sensation?
2- Know your “why”
Whenever you offend with your actions, the reactions of others can be uncomfortable for you. Strong motivation is important so that you are less influenced by it.
Find the deeper meaning for yourself so that the reactions of others don’t seem so important to you in comparison. That can be something big like world peace or the face of your boss, if you really give him/her your opinion.
No matter what motivates you, make it big in your mind. When you can see the mountain behind the wall, it is easier for you to imagine climbing the wall to get to the mountain.
Then you can be successful and sometimes say no. All according to your own rules.
3- The Universe revolves around you
If you think it’s all about you, you are absolutely right!
For you, your life is really all about you. And everyone else’s life is all about them.
What can you learn from it?
You are less important and less interesting to other people than you think. They don’t think about you that much.
Even when others think badly and even blaspheme you, these are only fleeting phenomena. The next day or after a week at the latest, it is forgotten again.
After years of shame, have you ever thought of something that you really screwed up? You are probably the only one who still remembers it. The good thing is that you can use your negative feelings to heal old injuries.
4- If you could please everyone
It is impossible to please everyone. But let’s imagine for a little while that it would be possible after all. What would your life be like then?
It would mean that you would have to keep bending. After all, not all people have the same opinion.
You shouldn’t have any at all, let alone an identity. Everything that makes you unique is ultimately offensive.
But, even if you somehow managed to do that, it would mean you would be totally boring. Who wants to be friends with someone who … oh well, is nothing?
So you would not be loved, but at most tolerated and ignored most of the time. Is that exactly what you want? Then I have bad news for you. People would still speak badly of you.
So in the end, your life would be the same as it is now, only you would be more miserable.
Would you rather people talk about you while you are vegetating on the hamster wheel?
Or should they talk about you because you are enjoying your life to the fullest and living your wildest dreams?
It’s up to you!
5- Live your uniqueness
Every person is unique and that is exactly his strength. It is your strength too.
You don’t have to be perfect to be a lovable special person. Everyone has weaknesses and everyone feels bad at times. It doesn’t affect your worth.
Acknowledge the fact that you are unique. Live it out to the fullest.
You don’t have a figure like a Calvin Klein model? Excellent!
Love your body, because it’s unique and, thus, special!
Don’t force yourself into clothes that are made for other characters. Find out what suits you and your shape. Find your own style and shine in it the way no one else can.
Dare to live your strengths and become the unique person that is inside you
Need a bit of a sense of reality?
Blaspheme people. They always do. And it says a lot more about the other person than it does about you.
So why does it bother us so much anyway?
What if you actually embarrassed yourself completely and everyone thinks badly of you? What if you get rejected?
Be aware of the consequences you expect. And then compare it to reality.
In truth, it might be embarrassing if you stand at the cash register with no money on you. But nothing more. Nobody would remember it the next day.
The fears are only within us. We still believe that if others think badly of us, we would die because exclusion from the group meant death in the past.
Why is it so important to you what others think of you? In what situations do you even think about it? What or who is the trigger for your self-doubt?
Imagine never asking yourself “what do others think of me?”
What would your life be like then? How would you feel?
7- Your exaggerated ego ideal
Criticism or bad opinions from others can only hit us if we condemn ourselves in secret.
This happens quickly when you have an ideal of yourself that just doesn’t correspond to reality. Then exaggerated expectations arise that you can never meet. If you are 5.2 tall you will never look like a 5.9 top model.
If we do not live up to these ideas, we judge ourselves for it. And we automatically assume that others think the same way.
But the reality is different: Your partner won’t expect you to suddenly be 5.9 tall. He probably doesn’t even share your ideal, because he chose you from all the possibilities. As you are now.
The exaggerated ideal images of us are only expected from one person: from ourselves. The rest of the world does not compare us to this imagined image.
Lower all facades and walls. Face the fear that the other person may see unloved aspects of you. Show yourself free.
Either nothing happens or the other person loves you a little more for being who you are.
Don’t hide any longer.
8- Boost your self-esteem
When you show yourself authentically for who you are, you prove to yourself that you don’t have to be different. This will also increase your self-worth. You are wonderful the way you are.
Become aware of your opinion, your wishes and goals.
What do you want? What are you thinking about? What makes you happy?
Adjust your life accordingly. The more you go your way, the stronger your self-confidence becomes.
Then you won’t care what others think of you. You are enough for yourself.
With every step on your way, new courage grows to follow your heart further.
9- Find your emergency mantra
If things get really bad and you can’t get out of the situation or calm your feelings, an emergency mantra can help.
The best time to think about the mantra is in a quiet moment without pressure.
Examples that will help me include:
“I’m good enough.”
“That is my life.”
“I have power over my life.”
Find a mantra that calms you down and feels consistent.
Then, if you get nervous because the opinions of others suddenly seem incredibly important to you, you can repeat the mantra internally until you feel relief.
I hope this post can help you, so you can stop caring about what others think of you, and it already seems less important to you. My wish is that it makes it easier for you to cope with stressful situations.
You are unique. There is nothing you can do about that.You can only celebrate yourself or judge yourself for it.
Find yourself and let your inner voice guide you. A strength of its own grows from self-knowledge.
The way you are, you are absolutely beautiful, you are perfect. ~Namaste~