Shedding some light on your ego viewed from a psychological and spiritual perspective
The ego of the soul incarnated as a human is often misunderstood and even more so considered negative. This article aims to provide a sober evaluation of the definitions and explain the functions of your ego viewed from a psychological and spiritual perspective. First of all, let’s take a look at what we know from the vernacular.
The ego from a psychological point of view
In psychology, we know the ego as a synonym for the self. However, the self is limited to what you feel like a human, what you think and how you act. It is the sum of your man-made mental, emotional and interactive functions.
Here we see that the physical self is equated with the psychological ego. This is by no means a negative. But as a spiritually awakened person, you may ask yourself the question of whether the physical self is really all that matters to you. For while psychology limits the self to the physical self, you may not do that.
The ego from a spiritual point of view
The difference of the ego concept in spirituality is not so far from psychology as one might want to assume. Even in the esoteric sense, we speak of the ego as the part of your self that is at home in this world. The ego can be equated with the personality of the physical self from a spiritual perspective – along with all mental, emotional and acting qualities.
The ego as a beautiful tree – The beautiful anchor of being
The sticking point comes into play only if we want to delimit the far greater view of the self, the soul, conceptually from the ego. The ego is then only a part of the soul. If we imagine the soul as a white light being sent through a prism, then the ego is just one of many broken frequencies of the total self. A part-self that experiences and reflects apparently separated from the total self.
However, we immediately see that the ego also plays a major role in the spiritual. The ego, the physical self, the incarnated personality, serves the Higher Self in everything it does. The ego is the one that gradually recognizes itself. It is the trunk from which the tree grows.
Dispensable valuations of the vernacular ego
The common tongue understands a big ego as a presumptuous self-staging. But such understanding excludes a healthy/strong form of ego from the beginning. However, if we want to allow for both the potential of a healthy and an unhealthy ego, then we should not treat the ego as a blanket but as an equivalent of self-worth.
You too may be using “ego” as a transcription of something negative. After all, you know the size of your true self, and maybe looking down on the ego for something that is not yet fully understood. But that’s an ironic view of you on an important part of you.
The ego needs no valuation. Always remember that only your ego can value the ego. Your soul does not do that. She sees every conceivable experience as absolutely worthwhile, as worthy of appreciation and enrichment. But not only that, your soul needs the ego, your physical self, to be able to experience yourself in this dimension.
Big/strong ego vs. small/weak ego
Of course, you can oppose the last section that there are people who currently make an ego centeredness. They identify solely with the physical self, forgetting everything else. They are “egocentric” or “selfish” – a trait that is widely known to be purely negative.
I would like to give you three key points with which you can transform this prejudice:
First, you must remember that forgetting (and remembering and dissolving from there) is precisely the purpose of the human incarnation. This is what makes humanity as a whole; it has forgotten a lot more than that. The added value for the Universe is just this transformation process starting from this high limitation. Forgetting is useful.
Second, you might consider it that the resistance to the natural self (the one-sidedness with the Universe) is more exhausting than what the awakened human does. The ego-centrist brings in much more energy, and that’s his right and his way. He will enjoy the awakening all the more as the contrast will be very great for him. Grant it to him.
Third, you can even consult specific life circumstances and situations and realize that there is already a healthy egoism there. The latter you know from the private and also from the professional.
For example, a lawyer without a strong ego could not defend a client he knows to be guilty of law or even morally culpable. Not only is ego often useful but sometimes even indispensable. But the most indispensable it is when you keep trying to reach the top and reach a goal. More on that later.
But also be wary of how you actually diagnose a strong or weak ego on a person. The following wants to help describe the real difference.
Great vs. little ego
A person who cannot cope with criticism has colloquially often a “too big ego”. But it is the other way round. He has a small ego (low self-esteem) because he does not have enough self-awareness to classify critique according to his own growth.
His tribe is too small. A person who can cope with criticism has accordingly no “small” or “weak ego”, but a big (healthy) and strong ego. The vernacular exchanges this assessment.
Often we think we have strong or weak egos but are completely wrong. As extremes for people who do not necessarily have much real ego, I would like to attract both the low-frequency narcissists and the high-frequency wild-empathic people.
Let’s take a look at this example to see if the ego really is always so clear and especially when it can be positively effective.
The ego using the example of empaths and narcissists
The empath (and other high-frequency people) has a soft spot for the upper chakras. The narcissist (and other low-frequency people) has a soft spot for the lower chakras. Both can have a blocked solar plexus chakra and, thus, little functional ego and feel powerless; each in a way that is completely different on the outside.
The wild Empath exists on the level of pure higher inspiration and sees, feels and acts “only” with the heart. However, he cannot distinguish himself well and often feels inadequately grounded. He gets his energy from the higher frequencies.
The narcissist, on the other hand, is deeply rooted in the soil and can, therefore, distinguish himself excellently. He has high reserves of energy in the lower chakras of which he consumes daily – and be it by tapping other people’s energies.
However, as a human being, he often exists apart from higher intuitions and heart qualities. He acts egocentrically (staged), but without having a truly healthy ego.
The Little Ego: Narcissistic vs. empath
The narcissist tries to generate self-esteem to the outside, because he cannot feel any within himself. He feels powerless; this is often due to the lack of basic trust of the inner child. Although his appearance confused with “strong ego”, but that is only compensating illusion.
Again, the wild empath often has equally low self-esteem but does not have to stage it. He does not feel powerless at heart level because of his higher frequency, as is the case with the narcissist. The empath remembers his higher self; the narcissist does not.
First, let’s look at why empathies often end up with narcissists. The weak ego they have in common. But above all, the system always wants to be round: The narcissist has rammed into the ground (isolated from “above”), the wild empath is an air kiss (insufficiently grounded). Both can, therefore, learn the same amount of each other.
What exactly? The narcissist can undoubtedly learn empathy. But what is it that the empath could learn from a narcissist? What is so great about his ego appearance? In a word: demarcation ability. It is not uncommon for empaths to see in narcissists why they “do not want ego.” But if you read the last paragraph again, you’ll see why narcissists should not be the template.
The fully developed, enlightened person is both fully empathic and fully demarcated. The “ego empath”. He can feel free, think and act – he can empathize and still say no.
The “ego-empath” can even perceive more with time than before. Why is that?
The ego as a lifeline for the higher spheres
The further you want to expand as an incarnated man with your higher perception, you may consider the following.
Imagine you are capable of going so far into all-one that from now on you become one with the stories of the deceased. That you can perceive them in a way as if there were no difference between them and yourself. Would you then not rather like to find your way back safely to your shell, instead of to lose yourself?
The ego as the trunk of the tree
If you would prefer to lose the secure hold in the self, that’s what madmen unconsciously choose. But these “madmen” are not exactly the roof of my model because they do not have the ability to delineate, even if their frequency is high. By this, you can see that a healthy integration of the ego is essential for a healthy spiritual maturing process.
You may be wondering how you could get your narcissistic partner or anything like that to be no narcissist anymore. But you should distance yourself from this idea. You cannot get anyone to do anything. He will learn empathy only when he wants to do so.
You can only lead by example. Showing him full of joy what you are at the core, what makes you, what you can be without needing something in exchange. Who then picks something to follow from you: great! Who does not go away from you: even better! And who wants to move on: Let them!
The little ego conclusion
People who are aware of their true self (who are self-confident) can classify criticism well and see it as a starting point for their own growth. You then have a big (stable) ego – and that’s a good thing.
People who are less aware of themselves, and allergic to criticism, have a small ego and something else to learn. This can apply to both empaths and narcissists (as extreme phrases). Meditation for the solar plexus chakra helps here.
Demarcation and empathy are equally important to fully developed, spiritually awakened people. The high delineation of, for example, narcissists is good, but should always be complemented by an equally high level of empathy.
Empaths, on the other hand, tend to have a lot of empathy, but too little demarcation. Here you can remember the ego as a natural border. A limit that can serve you.
The fully awakened man should be able to master both: ability to delimit and to empathy – otherwise, his spiritual growth is restrained.
A treetop never continues to grow as its secure hold. Safehold means a healthy, stable and strong ego that seeks nothing outside, and finds everything in itself.
I hope this post helps to explain your ego viewed from a psychological and spiritual perspective, and for you to recognize that the “ego” does not have to be evaluated. You can integrate it into your holistic, harmonious self and reap the rewards.
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